I was interested in dating in high school but was never motivated because high school boys are immature and lazy, and I was never brave enough to step out of my comfort zone—until my second year of college. I was motivated by a fortune cookie and a few close friends to download Bumble.
Bumble is an online dating application that allows women to contact men first after matching with them. Generally, the app works similarly to other dating apps. Swipe left if you are not interested, and swipe right if you are. If the guy swiped right on you first, you get a match. Once you match with a guy, the girl can send the guy a message if she chooses, but the first message opportunity is only open for 24 hours.
The idea of online dating sounded fake and cheating the system of meeting someone naturally. I always thought I would meet my "prince charming," and everything would romantically fall into place. I had hoped to find my one true love like they do in the movies.
I downloaded Bumble on Oct. 31 and I matched with quite a few guys, sent my fair share of messages, and went on one date. My one date went well, but we didn't end up working out in the long run. He was a nice guy, and we had a great conversation, but I had to move on because my goal for using Bumble was to get into a long-term relationship.
After six weeks of swiping, messaging and one unsuccessful date, I matched with a guy, Xavier, who asked me out after three texts. I accepted. After finals, I met him for the first time to make sure he wasn't a creep because you never know who you're meeting on the internet. My first impression was that he was tough, talkative, and kind of a good driver. But I really liked him. We planned our date over Bumble messaging. A week later, we went on our first date.
Xavier and my first date was picturesque on a Friday night. He came to my front door and we went to the local coffee shop in town, where he took my hand, looked me in the eyes, and asked me to be his girlfriend. After the coffee shop, we drove two hours to a drive-in movie theater. While we were in the car, we had a great conversation. We watched "How the Grinch Stole Christmas" at the outdoor theater. When we got back to my house, he walked me to the front door, kissed me on my porch and said goodnight.
We went out the next night too. Xavier came to my house and picked me up. We drove to this cute diner, and he bought dinner for us, then we went to a rollerblading rink down the street. He drove me home, walked me to my door and kissed me on the porch once again. I saw him once more on Sunday when he joined my family and me at church.
Like all relationships, we have been getting to know each other even though we shared so much through Bumble text messages and phone calls. I am still learning new things about him and his life as he is with me. Since we started dating in December of 2020, we celebrated Christmas, New Years' and Valentine's Day together.
On April 18, 2021, we will have been dating for four months. While I had my reservations and doubts about having a success story using a dating app, I am glad I downloaded Bumble and met Xavier.
My experience with Bumble was interesting, to say the least. It was my first time using a dating app. Like Jessica, I downloaded the app on Halloween. Our friends helped us put together our profiles, and then we were off into the world of online dating.
I found the app pretty straightforward and easy to use. However, either I am too picky, or I was not taking the time to carefully look at each profile because I ran out of swipes, or "bees," in the first 24 hours of downloading the app. Meaning, I had to wait several hours before I could begin to see profiles again and swipe right or left on them. This happened several more times while I had the app.
I did have several matches, but none of them went anywhere. Some of the guys were very polite, but others had bad intentions and different expectations than myself. Some of the messages I got were slightly concerning, cringey or just plain weird.
My Bumble experience was very short-lived, though. After only a week of swiping, one of my roommates mentioned a friend who she thought could potentially be a good match for me. My first reaction was, sure, why not? My underwhelming response to this proposition soon changed as I got to know this guy. Our conversations were interesting and engaging. Texting turned to Snapchat videos and FaceTime calls, and I found that I really liked him. We don't attend the same college, but we are from the same hometown area.
Over winter break, when I was home for several months, we had our first date to see the local Christmas lights show with hot chocolates in hand. Five dates later, he took me on the best date I've ever been on. He showed up with beautiful flowers, and we went to Lazy 5 Ranch, Italian food for lunch (my favorite), a drive-in movie and then got dinner. At the end of that night, we were officially in a relationship. Though we are at different schools, our FaceTime calls are frequent, and the spark is fresh and alive. I think Bumble helped me realize that I needed only the best guy, and I did not find that on an app.